Dr. Jane explains

iPhone-diff-screendr-jane-rosen-grandon-small.jpDr. Jane R. Rosen-Grandon is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor in private practice in Greensboro, North Carolina. Her special Interest in the topic of marital satisfaction gave rise to her research on couples between 1995-1998, and release of her book Keeping Love Alive in 2004 (now in its eighth printing).

For the past 40 years, she and her husband, Gary M. Grandon, Ph.D., an Educational Psychologist, have worked together as Rosen Grandon Associates, Inc. You can read Dr. Jane’s Notebook (blog), here.

Dr. Jane’s Compatibility Meter is derived from CHARISMA: The Characteristics of Marriage Inventory™, developed by marriage and family therapist, Dr. Jane Rosen-Grandon. The inventory has been peer-reviewed in the Journal of Counseling and Development. Dr. Jane developed the inventory to support her private practice as a marital counselor and it is licensed to hundreds of independent counselors.

The CHARISMA model is based on the idea that thousands of couples get married every day. However, few couples have a clear idea of what it takes to make a marriage work.  

Marital or relationship satisfaction is Dr. Jane’s goal. The inventory is a personal measure of one’s happiness with the relationship so it delivers a subjective score that only an individual partner can evaluate.

CHARISMA, the Characteristics of Marriage Inventory, was developed to assess both the importance of marital characteristics to married individuals and their satisfaction with those characteristics in the marriage. CHARISMA was administered to 201 married individuals and found to have acceptable reliability and validity as well as clinical utility in helping couples examine their relationship values and priorities. Since the initial research that developed this instrument, it has proved useful, as a therapy tool in clinical counseling practice, as a framework for the treatment plan in marital counseling/therapy, and as an approach to marital education.

Two scales were found to assess unique viewpoints of the individual spouses: Importance and Satisfaction. Participants in our study rated various marital characteristics according to “how important is each marital characteristic to you? And, “How satisfied are you with each marital characteristic in your relationship?” A difference score was then calculated using the equation: Importance minus Satisfaction = Difference score. The internal consistency of each subscale was measured using Chronbach’s alpha coefficient. The alpha for the Importance scale was .83 and the alpha for the Satisfaction scale was .94. Concurrent validity of the CHARISMA was established in relation to Spanier’s Dyadic Adjustment Scale (1976) and the ENRICH (Olson, McCubbin, Barnes, Larsen, Muxen & WIlson, 1983.) State of the art statistical methods of factor analysis and structural equation modeling were used to identify three distinct factors or pathways to marital/relationship satisfaction. These are LOVE, LOYALTY, and SHARED FAMILY VALUES. Essentially this research identified a model of marital satisfaction in which there is a direct relationship between satisfaction with SHARED FAMILY VALUES and overall relationship satisfaction.

There is also a direct relationship between satisfaction with LOYALTY and overall relationship satisfaction. But with LOVE, we discovered something different. We found that even when participants rated LOVE as important and satisfying, there was no direct relationship to overall satisfaction because in addition to being satisfied with LOVE, one must also be satisfied with LOYALTY in order to achieve long term overall marital satisfaction. In other words, LOYALTY provides a certain critical backbone to relationships, which if broken is not easily mended or restored. Dr. Jane’s COMPATIBILITY METER, while based on serious psychology, has been simplified and made available for you to use on your own when evaluating your compatibility to consider whether to take the next step in your relationship.



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